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Until you're completely honest with yourself you will live in self-deceit and that is nowhere you want to be. There is a reason there is the saying: The truth will set you free! "Every lie has a consequence….you cannot escape that." -Gary King
I can't tell you how many times I hear people saying things about themselves or about their circumstances and these statements are simply not true. Okay, so if you really believe it, is it a lie? Well, when people are brainwashed and join cults, they really believe the crap their fed, right? And it's a lie!
So yes, just because you convinced yourself it's the truth doesn't mean it is the truth. You will see a lot of these lies coming out of someone's mouth when they want to blame the other person for what happened to them. These types of people DO NOT take responsibility for their actions or their circumstances, it's always everybody's fault but their own.
They want to blame everyone else and everything else but themselves because they can't handle the truth about who they are or who they've become. They tout how unfair the other person is or how unfair life has treated them. And guess what; until they can face reality it will never change because they always have an excuse to hide under!
Typically people who lie about things like this live in a dark place. Some are incapable of being honest about anything and if you are involved with or no someone like this trying to get them to face the truth is almost impossible so don't waste your time. Use your time to change the things you can instead.
The other area where I hear way too many lies spewing from the undeserving is in the self-loathing department. There is a funny book out called, Self Loathing for Beginners. Lynn Phillips shows the absurdity of the things we say and do to ourselves by bringing humor to the insanity of it all.
I'm sure you hear it all the time and you may even be the one saying it. For instance have you ever heard yourself or anyone say:
* I'm too fat. (In the mean time you may be all of 20 pounds overweight!) It's time to re-define the word, fat.
* I'm too old. How old are you? How old is too old and who told you that you're too old? And you believe them?
* I can't. If you believe you can't, you won't. If you believe you can, you will.
* It's too late. For what? Haven't you heard, it's never too late!
* I'll never meet anyone. Why? Do you live in a cave? Are you a hermit? When you believe you will, you will!
* No one will ever love me. I love you! Your friends and family love you. And, when you learn to love yourself, so will others.
And lastly people aren't being honest with themselves about their ability to live the life they want. They tell themselves false stories as to why they will never have the love, or money, or body, or new career, their soul-mate or any of their hearts desires to come to pass.
They begin to believe that it's just the way it is and there is nothing they can do about it and I'm sorry to say, that is simply a lie. Now, if you want the truth you have to dig deep inside and see who you really are, a wonderful, divine person who has the God given power to do the thing you think you can't.
The truth is that you can do whatever it is you want when you believe you can. The truth is you don't deserve to believe these false beliefs you've been feeding yourself about who you are because you are so much more than you have given yourself credit to be. You are who you believe you are!
So today, be honest with yourself. You may not love where you are right now in life but that doesn't mean that things can't change. As you know, life is a journey and it's all about enjoying the place you are right now along the path that will begin to shed light on your days instead of darkness.
Your future is yours to create, one filled with love, happiness, peace of mind or whatever you truly want. And that my friends, is the truth!
“直到你完全相信自己,你才不会生活在什么都行不通的自我欺骗当中。这么说是有原因的:真理会让你自由。”每一个谎言你都无法逃避。 ----加里国王
我无法告诉你我曾多少次听到人们他们的事情或者一些情况,但是这些陈述并不完全是事实。好吧,要是你真的相信,这还是一个谎言吗?好吧,当人们被洗脑或者是加入邪教组织,他们当然相信他们的废话,对吗?但那是谎言。
所以,仅仅因为你让你自己相信那是真的但并不代表那就是真的。当一些人因为所发生的事情而责备其他人的话,你就会从他们嘴里听到一些谎言。这些人不会对自己的言行负责任,好像那总是别人的过错而并不是他们自己。
他们只想去责备其他的每个人和每件事而不是自己,因为他们不会去处理他们是谁或者变成怎样的这种事实。那么猜想一下,如果他们不面对现实就无法改变,因为他们总是有借口去隐藏。
通常撒谎的人生活在一个黑暗的地方。一些人是无法对一些事情诚实,如果你参与了或者是没有人像这样去试着让他们面对事实,那么就不要浪费你的时间。用你的时间去改变你可以改变的事情。
其他地方,我听到了太多从自我厌恶的深处吐露的谎言。有一本很有趣的书叫《初学者的自我厌恶》。Lynn Phillips展现了一些我们通过疯狂的幽默对自己所说和所作的荒谬的事情。
我确信你你听到过,并且你甚至也是这样说的。例如,你曾经听到自己活着别人说过:
我不胖。(这时候可能你听众超标20磅)是该重新定义“胖”这个字了。
我不老。你多大了?多大算是老呢?谁告诉你你太老了呢?你相信他们吗?
我做不到。如果你相信你做不到那你就做不到,如果你相信你可以,那么你就可以。
为时已晚了。为什么?你没有听说,一切都不太晚。
我永远不见人,为什么?你住在一个山洞里吗?你是隐士吗?如果你相信你是,那么你就是。
没有人会爱我。我爱你。你的朋友和家人爱你。当你学会爱你自己的时候,别人也会去爱你。
最终,人们不会一直诚实的面对自己可以过自己想要的生活的能力。他们会告诉自己那些他们将永远没有爱,没有钱,没有健康,没有是职业,的虚假故事。他们的灵魂和理想渴望被传递。
他们开始相信事情就是这样的,他们无能为力,但我很抱歉地说,这完全是一个谎言。现在,如果你想知道事实,你必须去挖掘你的内心深处看看你是一个怎样的人,一个被上帝赋予了权利去做一些你认为自己不能做的事情的美好的神圣的人
事实是当你相信你自己你就能够做任何你想要做的事情。事实是你不应该相信你灌输给自己的那些你是谁的错误信念。因为你远比你自己想象的好得多。你认为你是谁你就是谁。
那么现在,相信你自己。你可能不喜欢你现在的生活但是那并不意味着不可以改变。正如你知道的,生活是一段旅程,你现在正在欣赏沿途的美景,你将开始走出过去的黑暗,迈向光明。
你的未来是自己创造的,一个充满爱,欢乐,和平,和一切你想拥有的未来。我的朋友啊,那就是事实。
你想去过一个更好的生活还是只想谈论一下它呢?Susan Russo是一个教练,他直接的方法是通过生活唤醒沉睡的人。如果你想改变你的生活,就按Susan说的去做,唤醒每一天,享受生活。 |
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